All Forms of Abuse and Neglect Are Crimes.
Separating #Children From Parents and Family
Is Also #Abuse via Child Alienation Syndrome #CAS
#J4C Unites The Ongoing Fight against Child Abuse, Neglect,
Cruel Parenting, Sexism, Incompetence And Corruption
Contact: Palesa: 082 325 4136 / Douglas 082 561 0700
Indeed, it takes a village to raise a child. In South Africa, at least 1 in 4 of our children are abused or neglected in one or more ways, the effects of which can last a lifetime. This often fatal abuse includes the ravages of divorce, where the child/ren often become a pawn for unstable adults. Human rights are an everyday struggle and the family law system is lucrative business. Through laziness, incompetence, malicious parenting, gender bias and corruption; stakeholders in the system ensure that generations of families are psychologically, socio-economically and constitutionally destroyed. But how is this possible?
Operating brazenly in the psycho-socio-economic-legal rights system is an insidious, influential cartel of accomplices buying and selling lives. All you need to do is follow the money. From juniors to seniors, this professional syndicate includes certain social workers, psychologists, police, family advocates, lawyers, prosecutors, court staff including magistrates and judges, politicians - and corrupt partners to pay them. “Suicide rates are reported to be of epidemic proportions among parents, fathers in particular; who are struggling to maintain a parenting relationship with their children, and legal abuse has been noted as a key factor in these cases.” (Kposowa, 2000; Kposowa, 2003). One father, Nico Louw, who fought to see his child, ended up committing suicide last year. More accurately – this was an uninvestigated murder.
But a campaign launched in Durban is fighting back. Justice 4 Children started as a fathers’ rights campaign [Daddy Loves You], launched by activist, journalist, attorney and abuse survivor Shabnam Palesa Mohamed. The catalyst was her nephew being kidnapped and alienated by his unstable biological mother over three years ago. But J4C has a passion and momentum of its own. This family rights movement is determined to breakdown the walls of secrecy and dysfunction. Tackling cases across the country, J4C helped break records on radio station Kaya fm during a talk show about paternal alienation.
Despite the fact that all matters concerning children are naturally considered as urgent; horrific delays in the wheels of justice turning in favour of children and their families are seen as normal. Fathers are particularly discriminated against as more often than not, they are the proverbial ‘cashcows’. Of those who alienate children, 75% are mothers and 25% are fathers. In over 80% of reported cases, children are automatically handed over to the mother and co-parenting becomes a farfetched pipedream. In involving a child in a battle against the father, the process of programming and brainwashing the child turns the child against the father. Many children, seeing the parents embroiled in this kind of warfare, turn against both parents, become depressed, underachieve at school, or turn to delinquent behavior.
A noted sociologist, Dr. David Popenoe, is one of the pioneers of the relatively young field of research into fathers and fatherhood. "Fathers are far more than just 'second adults' in the home," he says. "Involved fathers bring positive benefits to their children that no other person is as likely to bring.” Fathers have a direct impact on the wellbeing of their children including better cognitive ability, educational achievement, psychological wellbeing, and social behavior. Surely our children deserve this.
J4C strategies therefore includes research, dialogue, education, investigation, mediation, multimedia campaigning, public interest court action, and on the ground and online protest. This may seem somewhat radical to some. But parental rights abuse often seems to be like a cancer, where it only matters if it happens to you. In a world where there is a war on children’s rights that requires us to unite in strategic action, which side of the ethical line do we stand on? What kind of future are we creating?